i want to make the exit , minimize and maximise buttons bigger on windows

Then either change to a theme that has the sizes you prefer

  • or change the pixel size of the upper border in the theme you're currently using.
  • or change the resolution of the screen to something smaller.
  • Or ..... switch to Enlightenment (E26 currently).

If you're looking to switch themes check this thread:
https://forum.elivelinux.org/t/how-to-add-themes-in-e16/